It seems counter intuitive, but it's also a little bit common sense that the woman will want what she can't have. After all, an attractive woman almost always gets what she wants anyways, and if suddenly she can't have something, she's going to use all of her powers to get what she "can't have".
Whether or not the women you befriend end up wanting to get romantically involved with you or just be your friend, being friends with multiple girls will make getting a girlfriend so much easier. I cannot tell you the dramatic difference it makes when I have entered a club with a group of girls, or even a single girl. It's as if the women have been given "proof" that you're worth pursuing. They see another woman that wants to be with you, and that makes them feel attracted.
Guys tend to think women aren't competitive. This just isn't true. They just don't compete in sports or poker as much as guys. However, they love to compete over a fun guy's interest, or even in little subtle games and tests. At the bare minimum, if you have someone's attention and you don't have time to make friends with other woman, you should at least tell them a story about another woman, but be modest and respectful about it. Perhaps you talk about a woman you hung out with, and you talk about how you hung out, and watched the stars together, or had a picnic on the beach until the sun started to go down... Then you can say... "and then we... well... nevermind". Let her fill in the details. If she wants to know more she will probably make it fairly clear to you. Refuse to tell her, then if she really wants to know let her know that you just might tell her later... if she's lucky. Or perhaps you leave information in an online profile about how you like to go on the ocasional weekend retreat with that special someone... You have to give her just a taste of some setting and what happens and leave the good stuff out so she will fill in the details. You want to gradually warm up to her, then occasionally say things that indicate you aren't interested.
Getting a girlfriend is very tricky, because the principals of attraction still apply, so the mystery method is still good to a certain extent. However, you don't want to amplify that attraction quite as much, and you also don't want to make it so you don't trigger the attraction at all. You don't want to trigger the attraction too fast too soon, and you don't want to wait too long to act when she's attracted, but you still want to leave anticipation.
In the next post, we will talk about interweiving stories and all sorts of things that will give you control over the attaction and keep her wanting more, without having to play it too laid back. To attract a woman, you need there to be an element of her wanting what she can't have... But to get a girlfriend, you need her to still want you, while still wanting more. That requires a feeling like there's still so much more that you two have planned that you haven't gotten around to yet.
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