How do I talk to girls?
The answer to his is simple, open your mouth and produce meaningful sound. Of course, if you don't want the smart remark, you'll want to be more specific about your question. If you want to talk to a girl like a friend, you need to learn to talk to her like a friend. Most people already know how to do this, because guys know how to talk to someone as a friend. On the other hand, if you want to talk to a girl in a way that makes her feel attracted to you, that's another, and can be answered in the next question.
How do I flirt with girls?
Now we are talking. Flirting generally involves teasing and seems counter intuitive to people who don't understand. You get a girl to like you by teasing her, as if you would have done to a friends younger sister when you yourself were younger. Be completely ridiculous and put words in her mouth that you both know she wasnt trying to say. Go into an overly serious act, like you're her father and remind her to "grow up" whenever she acts even remotely childish. If she doesn't understand something, or doesn't here you, you should say things like "you'll find out about what I mean when you get older". If she gets nervous and mutters, say "well that's easy for you to say", or "You know, I think you're just about old enough to speak in grown up language.".
If you say something wrong and realize it, you make fun of her for not noticing and not correcting you, like she was the one that screwed up. If she teases you back and says that she wasn't the one that had troubles saying it, tell her you were just testing her and that she failed big time. If she does the same later, tell her you noticed, but didn't want to embarrass her, or that you didn't bother because you didn't think she would ever learn the right thing to say. Specifically, tease her for her strengths.
If she just got her P.H.D. or gets straight A's, pounce on any opportunity to say something like "Even I knew that, it doesn't take a PHD to figure it out, you would think you would have learned that by now" If she says something about how she has the P.H.D. say, "I guess that's why you needed an extra 4 years to finish school." If she seems proud of her achievement say "You know, I remember when people used to tell the other people they had to go to school for an extra year they were academically challenged. Then we grew up and were told to respect people's feelings. So if it makes you feel good about yourself, you're an academic genius, but deep down inside, we both know you're learning challenged... I guess you just dont think as quick as the rest of us."
If this same girl says, well I skipped a grade in high school, say "oh, so you're a trouble maker, didn't your mom tell you not to skip class?" What did they decide to punish you for missing a year of class by giving you 4 more years of school to make up for it? And you had to pay for it too? Harsh... I guess that means you must really like punishment."
Of course if a girl tells you she moved up a grade early on, do the opposite "I'm not supposed to tell you this, but when you grow up, you'll actually find that the people that take longer to graduate school are actually smarter, they even give them prestigious degrees for being so thorough. They just don't want to tell you that you're finishing faster to make you fell good about yourself".
This is how you flirt. This might sound mean to some, and some may confuse this technique with actually being mean. The trick is, to come off sounding extremely mean, but in reality say something that you both know is not true. It's ironic and unexpected, and is the exact opposite of what she is used to hearing. The trick is not as much what you say, but how you say it. Be slow and deliberate when you speak. Make sure to pause at times and keep the woman anticipating what you are going to say next. Or give out a Napoleon Dynamite sounding exhale as you tell her she doesn't know what she's talking about when she just proved you wrong about something.
The biggest thing is to be able to understand non verbal communication or better known as body language. If you talk with someone who isn't in a playful mood, you have failed before you even started. You can learn a lot about body language in any number of Joe Navarro's books. Joe Navarro is a former FBI interrogator and he has studied the science behind every micro movement, and more obvious movement people make, and why those movements generally only occur when someone is feeling a certain way. There is a great TV show on Wednesday nights on Fox called "Lie To Me" which is a show about an independent contracting firm that is paid to read body language and get the truth out of people. You will often times learn a lot from these resources, and probably have a very good chance at understanding everyone a lot better.
Once you understand body language, you are going to need to approach the women that look like they're in a good mood. If you can touch a woman's shoulder and ask her something real quick while she's laughing, she will instantly associate you with the good feelings she gets from laughing. Or if you're engaged in a conversation and they laugh, you can lean in and say something else in their ear and nudge them a little bit for a similar effect.
Most communication is not what you say, but what your body does when you say it, and the voice tones you use. Practice talking with a smooth deep clear voice. record yourself and how you sound. Practice movements in front of a mirror.
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